A Woman Defined

Art & Culture by Mahvash Mossaed

Destiny — My Thoughts on It

February 27, 2013

We are all connected and are one in this universe. I look at it as tapestry with different patterns and many, many stitches all woven together. Everything in the universe matters, for if not this bird, if not this little ant crawling, if not this rock, if not this piece of a cloud, if not me and if not you, then there would definitely be a hole in the woven foundation of this tapestry. Everything that exists in this universe matters and is supposed to be here. Everything is supposed to be exactly the way it is, for nothing exists on its own without its connection and its dependability to something else next to it. Whatever happens in our lives, which we call our destiny, is all entirely out of our power and out of our control. I look at our destiny as the patterns of this tapestry; we are subject to its design, whatever it is, bad or good.

I also believe we come into this world with our destiny, as a blue print all drawn and rolled up, coming with us. Nevertheless, we are aware that we have choices in the matters we can change. If you imagine our fate to be like a building being built, step by step from the blue print that came into this world with us, then there are the matters and situations we can’t change. For example, we cannot change where the bedrooms of the building are or where the windows and the doors are located and so on. We can’t have a say in where we were born, who are parents are, whom we marry, and how many children we have. All this is part of the blue print which comes with you.

Still, in spite of the force of destiny, there are a lot of matters and things we can change and affect in our lives. It’s sort of like being able to decorate our house after it’s built from the blue print, the way we like it and as we please. I also think everything in the universe is based on a balance of opposites, like day and night, darkness and light, bad and good. Knowing that, we can then understand that so much of our strengths could be the direct result of our weaknesses.Thus, I think we should love and embrace all of who we are. We should not repress the bad in ourselves, for we well know, by repressing the darkness, the shadow in ourselves can turn into an emotional tumor. After all, if you don’t acknowledge your dark side – your shadow – and don’t bring it out, air it, or let it ooze out; if we don’t let all the darkness, all the badness, and all the weaknesses out; if we don’t live with it, love it, hate it, shoot it down, hang it up; and if we don’t polish it, smoothen the hard edges, and accept it as less desirable but nevertheless part of who we are, then there is no other way that we would be able to deal with it.

We can’t possibly cut out the things we deem less desirable of ourselves and dispose of them in the garbage. It would be like cutting a toe off if it has a bad fungus on it. Cutting a toe off and then throwing it in the trash. That’s impossible. So we might as well heal it, and then live with it, and as a result, try to make our universe within a beautiful place in which to live.

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